Forgiveness is key to living a happy and fulfilling life. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. It just means you let go of the transgression and release the person and situation. You relinquish judgement. Forgiving yourself is just as crucial as forgiving others who have hurt you in the past. Watch the video!
Make a list of all the people that offended you or hurt your feelings this month (include the person who pissed you off ten years ago if thinking about he/she still pisses you off today). Pick 3 from the list that jumps at you. Sit or lay down somewhere quiet. Close your eyes. (this is the hard part) Imagine the person in front of you. Breathe. (this will calm your emotions) Allow any feelings of sadness and anger to surface. Not judging if the feelings are good or bad. (feelings are a gift to show you what's going on inside your soul) See the person in front of you. Keep your eyes closed. Say out loud, "I forgive you for.....(the transgression)." It doesn't matter how big or small the transgression is. If it offended or hurt you, YOU have THE RIGHT to feel what you feel! (acknowledging and validating your feelings is a huge part of loving yourself)
Say out loud, "I am willing to release (name of person) of...(the transgression), and move forward with my life. I do this because I love myself and I am worth it." (say it out loud even if you don't feel like loving yourself today, fake it till you mean it) Now repeat the whole thing three times. Say it louder, with your whole being and with conviction! Repeating it out loud allows your words to seep into your subconscious. We want your words to cleanse your spirit. Feel your heart getting lighter.
Visualize yourself floating on a cloud with a smile on your face. Feel whatever emotions that may come up. Allow them to pass through you. You are strong. You can do this! Breathe. Listen to your breath. In and out. In and out. (if you suddenly feel panicked or anxious, shake it off with a HAAAAA sound) Breathe deeply. Spread your arms and reach out and up. Let out a sigh of relieve. Feel your body releasing any tension especially in the heart center. Your stomach softening. You limps grounding you. Feel the earth below supporting you. Say out loud, "Thank you God, universe, endless love. I am loved. I am safe. I am free from unforgiveness." Repeat this out loud 3 times. Take a deep breath.
Take another deep breath. Let out a big sigh of relief in "HAAAAA" sound. Feel your heart center vibrating as you do this. (release any tension from your jaw with your breath, let the jaw muscles soften) Feel how strong your heart vibrates. Feel the capacity for love you have within your being. Be this for sixty seconds. (take your time and build up to thirty minutes eventually) Slowly open your eyes.
Now go to the bathroom. Look into the mirror. SEE YOURSELF. Breathe. (this may feel wierd and uncomfortable at first, it's okay, you are NOT being vain) Say out loud, "I forgive you....(your name)." Repeat this 3 times. Say it with conviction. FORGIVING YOURSELF is part of LOVING YOURSELF.
Take a journal out. Date the entry. Jot down any thoughts, feelings you may have. As you practice this forgiveness exercise more and more, the whole exercise will become effortless. Just give it some time. I believe in you. If I can do it, you can do it. I pat myself on the back and say "Good job, Kiki. You are doing the best you can. Good job." Try it, what do you gotta lose? We can't wait for people to apologize to us. It all begins with the SELF. "BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD." - Gandhi
Who did you forgive today? How does it feel after you released him/her from his/her transgression? Share with me! Comment below!
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